Thursday, November 15, 2012

Struggle is an excellent teacher

     As parents, we try our best to shelter our children from pain and sorrow and hard times.  Sometimes, we do too good a job and our children are released into the universe ignorant that there are evil things lurking all around and vastly unprepared to meet the challenges of the world.

     Sadly, we have to teach our children to maka 'ala, be alert or cautious.  Never talk to strangers.  Do not get into a stranger's car.  Don't open the door if you do not know the person outside.  But we cannot teach them all the don'ts, nevers, watch outs that might exist in the world.

     Sometimes, we need to let our children learn the hard way, the ways of the world.  Sure, we might contribute our two cents of wisdom but whether it is heeded is another discussion for another day.  Kids have their own minds and their own motivations.  Even if your child is an adult, he or she is still viewed as a kid, no matter how old.  It hurts to see them do something dumb, foolish, naive and then get burned but it is a life lesson that one thousand words from our mouth cannot teach.

      It is important to allow our young to try things out.  Challenge themselves.  Then they will not be afraid to try things when they are on their own.  While it is difficult to stand on the side, bridle our tongues, cross our fingers, and stop ourselves from taking over, the self restraint is worth it if the young 'un can pick himself or herself up and move forward.  It is far better to have this than to have our kids hanging onto our apron strings like the kingyo no unko.


kingyo no unko - A Japanese description of kids who follow their parents like the poop string of a goldfish.

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

What WOULD happen if women ruled the world?

     Our book club just read the book, Sandcastle Girls by Chris Bohjalian.  The novel talks about families affected by the fall of the Ottoman Empire and the genocide of the Armenians after that. In our discussion, we tried to name the periods of genocide in various countries.  Our question was:  Would this kind of horrendous actions take place if women were the countries' leaders?

      What are the motivations to kill innocent people just because they belong to a group, race, or religion?  Power, turfism, supremacy seem to be some of the reasons to eliminate a particular group of people from the face of the earth.  Are these motivations gender specific?  Would women kill for the same reasons?

     Despite the fact that we all share in the horror of genocide, we have seen it occur again and again in our history.  Why?  What was accomplished?  What was lost?  How were the survivors able to persevere?  What have we learned about the resilience of people?  What have we learned about the fiendish minds of men who perpetrated such acts of murder?

     Can we prevent genocide from happening again in the future?  If Bohjalian wanted to provoke our thinking, I would say he was successful in doing that in this novel.

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Eat what is 'ono

     With media and technology, we are bombarded with images of food...thick slices of red vine-ripened tomatoes, thick burgers dripping with fat, yellow slivers of potato goodness.  Question is:  Is the reality of tasting the food as good as the visual images?  Often times, the visual of a burger and the burger you spent your hard earned money on do not match!!  One course of action is to never go back to the restaurant again.

     The second course of action is to cook the food yourself and then send the visual to your friends to torment them with the deliciousness that they know you can create!!  Facebook is an excellent vehicle to torment friends and make them jealous over what you had made and will soon enjoy.

     It is my personal opinion that we should eat only what is 'ono or delicious.  We need to spend more time making choices as to what is 'ono.  If it is not 'ono...don't eat it.  Cease and desist immediately...or better yet, give it to an indiscriminant eater who will eat anything.  Then waste can be avoided.  We are afforded only so many calories a day so we should be choosy about what goes into our mouths.  Contrary to normal notions, it is better to have a small portion of something fabulously delicious rather than a plateload of mediocre blahness.

     Life is short!  Eat what is in season.  Eat something different.  Eat those things you do not see often on the menu or in the market.  Cook and eat things made from fresh ingredients. Use a smaller plate to control your portions.  Choose wisely and eat only what is 'ono...for the eyes and the taste buds.

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Cool Summer Suppers for Muggy Hilo Nights

     In our family, we gather each Sunday evening for dinner together at our daughter's house in Hilo.  Three families take turns cooking each Sunday...we have a schedule.  I have been looking for cool summer suppers since Hilo is so hot and muggy.  When I looked up recipes on the internet, most of the menu items are fluffy sides that do not really constitute a meal (in my book.)  Guacamole, salsa, beer margaritas, some fruity salads...but not a whole menu of items which are nonfussy and will not cause the cook to sweat and which are cooling items to enjoy as the two fans swish back and forth.
Open the windows for goodness sake!!

     Since it is my turn to cook this Sunday, here is my menu.

  •       Appetizer:  Corn chips with tropical salsa with fresh mango, tomatoes, pineapples, onions, and jalapeno peppers

  •       Grilled Salmon with lemon -  Place salmon on  a large piece of foil.  Pour some extra virgin olive oil over salmon and sprinkle with Rocking H Ranch Dry Rub seasoning.  Squeeze a lemon over the salmon and seal the foil into a packet.  12 minutes under the broiler and voila!

  •       Taegu salad with tofu, watercress, bean sprouts, taegu, tomatoes and sweet onions.  Dressing is made with soy sauce, vegetable oil, lots of garlic and green onions.  Cook sauce, cool and pour over salad items.

  •       Green salad with feta cheese, craisins, and walnuts  (no need for dressing)

  •       No fuss sushi rice topped off with furikake, takuan (pickled turnips), fried egg strips.  Use   Tamanoi Sushi No Ko...sushi seasoning packet for 4 cups of rice.

  •      Dessert:  Melona bars
We need more menus to keep our cool in the summer!  Bon Appetito!!

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Something Worth Reading

BOOK REVIEW:  BLIND ASSASSIN by Margaret Atwood

     I read a lot.  I scan the recommended books on the Amazon and Barnes and Noble websites.  I read the commentary that crosses my computer from GoodReads.  I try out new novels and new authors through my book club.  I try not to waste my time on lousy novels.  I look for character development that makes me live the book through the character's eyes.

     Books can be characterized according to how they unfold.  There is the cactus...surviving in a dry, dry environment...things move slowly...and there are always prickly thorns to irritate you along the journey.  When you finish a cactus book, you need to have a tall drink of water because the experience was so dry and dessicated.

     Then, there is the rope...many minor strands of plot...twisted and sometimes knotted...pay attention as a little tidbit would be a key factor in the denouement...make sure that you keep track of the various characters and what they are doing to whom for what reason.  If you don't, you will be lost in a tangled mess.  When you finish a rope novel, you will need a pair of scissors to cut yourself away from the tangled mess of events you just journeyed through.  Questions will continue to haunt you and make you look back to check out if you may have missed something.

     Margaret Atwood's book, The Blind Assassin, is such a book.  There are three novels woven throughout the book and at the end of the novel, she reveals things that knock your socks off.  "Why didn't I anticipate THIS happening!!"  She does a great job of enabling the reader to follow along with the three plots.  I am not quite sure how she does it but there are slight variations in the voice that place you in the right character.  This book was written in 2000 and won the Booker Prize.  It was an international bestseller and well worth the time to read.

          The picture is of happiness, the story not.  Happiness is a garden walled with glass;
           there's no way in or out.  In Paradise there are no stories, because there are no
           journeys.  It's loss and regret and misery and yearning that drive the story,
           along its twisted road.                                                         Blind Assassin Epilogue

     The final kind of book is the juggernaut...once the plot starts moving, there is no stopping it.  Dinner can wait...the ticking of the clock in the wee hours of the morning is meaningless...you hold your breath...then BAM!  you get smacked on the side of your head with a development you never dreamed could happen.  Wait...the author did mention something along the way.  "Why didn't I pay attention to details!!!"  Unfortunately, authors who write this kind of book can't seem to keep the energy going and tend to end up with formulaic novels which become bland and passe.  But the first one of its kind that you read can be fabulous.  Haven't read one of these books recently.  Searching for one.  Waiting to write one?

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Making do with Scraps

When I was teaching high school at Waiakea, my gifted and talented students read The Color Purple in tandem with the novel, The Scarlet Letter.  The class which was wholly female came up with some amazing insights and discussion.  The comment I remember most is when one of the girls said, "In both books, the female protagonists made beautiful things out of scraps."  Indeed, what a revelation.

In our lives, we throw away too much.  I am guilty of throwing away scrap fabric when I could be saving it to make patchwork quilts or such.  "I just don't have time for that kind of stuff," I rationalize to myself.

This past weekend, we made laulaus which are pieces of meat wrapped in taro leaves and then steamed.  When we cut the beef and the pork, we deboned the meat and cut it into chunks for the laulaus.  I kept the bones and the next day, I prepared a soup for the workers.  I added onions, carrots, potatoes, pasta, seasoning, and a large can of spaghetti sauce.  The soup served the workers and the leftovers have been the basis for five meals so far.

The bones were given to the dogs to enjoy which they relished.

One of my hula sisters commented on how she remembered her popo (Chinese grandmother) would make such a soup for the family using bones as the basis for the broth.  Making use of our resources.  Cooks know that using soup bones are the best for a flavorful stock.  If there is bone marrow which is not sucked up by a knowing eater, it adds to the creaminess of the soup.

Poverty Soup

Beef, pork, chicken, or turkey bones with some meat left on the bones
1 round onion
2-3 stalks of celery.  Use the leaves also.
2-3 carrots
2-3 potatoes
1/2 c uncooked pasta like macaroni
1 can spaghetti sauce
1-2 bay leaves
Seasoning - salt, coarse black pepper, Worcestershire sauce.  Red pepper flakes are optional for a little zing.

Braise the bones with the onion and celery.  Season with salt and pepper.  Cook until the onion is translucent.
Add enough water to cover the bones.  Simmer until the meat falls off the bones - 2-3 hours.
Remove the bones and skim the fat off of the soup.
Add in the spaghetti sauce and bay leaves.  Simmer for half an hour and then add in the carrots, potatoes and macaroni.
Correct the seasoning and add 2-3 dashes of Worcestershire sauce.

You can enrich the soup by adding leftovers in the refrigerator such as vegetables, etc.

Enjoy the good life and create something wonderful with scraps.

Friday, June 22, 2012

Welcoming Kids into Your Family

     Just finished reading the novel, Secret Daughter, by Shilpi Somaya Gowda.  The story takes place in India and the United States and centers on two mothers...a birth mother and an adoptive mother.  Both mothers seem saddened by the birth of a beautiful daughter.  The Indian mother regretted having to give her daughter up for adoption to insure that her daughter would live.  The American mother is saddled by her inability to have children and the many failed pregnancies.

     As a mom of two adopted kids from Korea, I can say that we have been made rich by the experience.  Our kids, a brother and sister, came to us as older kids, aged 10 and 6.  They persevered in a land where the language was new and made their way.  Our house was filled with activity and energy.  Swimming, soccer, camping, picnics, household chores, Boy Scouts/Girl Scouts, cooking for a large family...all sources of stress, positive stress.

     When I told my mom that we were going to adopt these kids, she scolded me for paying big money for "throwaway children."  Yes, the amount we paid could have bought an economy compact car in those days but what a wealth of happiness we have gained through the years.  Rather than investing in material things, pets, or transient pleasures, we invested in human lives.  Our kids are now adults and making their way in the world.  How much more happy can parents be? 

   

Saturday, May 5, 2012

Work is Good, Play is Evil?

     Retirement provides people with action choices on how to best use their time.  For some, the choices may include travel, more time to engage in athletic or recreational activities, opportunity to learn new things or develop more skills.

     But what about the person who only knows work as a way to spend the day?  What if satisfaction is gained from seeing a yard mowed, completing a task, or planning for new work assignment?  How does this person handle the retirement years especially when health and an aging body complicate matters?  Sitting in front of the TV for hours on end is not the answer.  And one can only take so many naps during the day. 

     The answer is to FIGHT to develop a more balanced lifestyle.  No longer should physical activity or athletic pursuits be considered a luxury.  Rather, new physical and mental pursuits should be considered as a prescription for a healthy life.  My older sister was one of those really smart people who got involved with computers in the early 60s.  She was a physicist and worked with an aeronautic firm and did some projects for NASA.  Upon her retirement, she continued her sedentary life and her only exercise was playing video games.  In her later years, she became wheelchair bound.  For a smart person, she was not very wise about taking care of her health.

     Keeping busy is another way to keep engaged with life.  Mental stimulation is important.  Reading, writing, doing problem solving activities also help.  It is amazing how letter writing can be a way to reach out to others.  Getting your thoughts down on paper can help to clarify what you REALLY want to say.  Keeping a prayer journal can help to articulate current situations and define what is of value.  Reading a prayer journal later will demonstrate how prayers can be answered and problems resolved.  Recording honest feelings on paper can help to stop the circular stream of consciousness which can torment us when we are troubled.  Write anything and everything until your mind is empty.  Then go back and survey the scope of what was written.  You will be surprised by what you learn about what you were thinking, whether consciously  or unconsciously.

     Another way of keeping engaged is to associate with people.  Choose whom you will associate with wisely.  Don't linger with people who are Drama Kings or Queens, nor people who are Emotional Vampires.  There is a limit to how much one can help others.  If some people continue to sap emotional energy, it is time to move on.  Look for people who resonate with a positive outlook on life.  They don't have to have the same interests.  In fact, it is fun to associate with people who are so different as it shakes one's thinking and perception.  Look for people who are action oriented.  Talk is cheap but if nothing gets done, talk becomes unnecessary noise.

      Don't be afraid to do something different and out of the ordinary.  Listen to music that your grandchildren love.  Eat food that you have never eaten before.  Talk to a stranger.  Go to a parade.  Read a book on a subject that you want to learn about.  Don't be afraid of making a fool of yourself.  The experience might give you some good laughs.  Whatever you choose to do, go all out.  No half-way, weak attempts.  One hundred percent commitment that the new experience will teach you something valuable.

     Finally, take time to count your blessings.  Rather than focusing on what you don't have, can't do, or missed out on, be grateful for the little and major things that you have, have experienced, and can look forward to in the future.  Gratitude will help to put your life into perspective.

Monday, April 23, 2012

Picky Palate Choices

An unusual thing happened after I had a knee replacement surgery. I noticed that my palate really changed. I was more sensitive to salt and seasonings. I found that things I loved before became unlovable. While I might have yearned to eat something delicious, when I did eat it, I found that the taste experience did not meet my mental sensations.


Thus, I found that there are a few things that are worthy of eating if you have a picky palate.
* Miyo's Restaurant - Waiakea Village - Sashimi with salad greens and a great Oriental dressing. The salad is a feast for the eyes as well as the mouth. The sashimi is fresh and delicious

* Sombat's Restaurant - Keonelehua Highway - Lunch Special Salad $7. The plate is heaped with fresh vegetables. This is also a salad that is a feast for the eyes. The peanut butter dressing
is a good complement to the greens

* Sack N Save, or Foodland Deli - Fried chicken wings $1.29 each. Crispy and crunchy delights.

* Kalbi Express - Waiakea Kai Shopping Center's Food Court - Bibim Pap. A huge plate with a layer of rice topped with various vegetables, barbeque meat, and a fried egg. Ask for the kochujang
sauce to mix in. Usually, the sauce is placed in and everything is mixed up and eaten with a large spoon. The plate is large and can easily feed two people.

* Seoul Station - Across from the Edith Kanakaole Stadium - Spicy rice cakes. Mochi like tubes are cooked in a spicy red pepper sauce with thin fishcake wafers. It is a side dish
but really yummy. It is spicy, hot, and yummy.

* Cafe Pesto - Kamehameha Avenue - Salmon Pizette. Salmon, cheese on a pizza crust. Nice, simple, and delicious. Great with a cold beer.

* Lava Rock Cafe - Volcano - The quarter pounder cheese burger with a green salad. The lilikoi salad dressing is just the perfect complement. If you order the Big O burger, hope that you
have a huge appetite!!

* Lucy's Taqueria - Keawe Street - Consider ordering the keiki/kupuna menu items which include a small drink and range between $5-$9. The portions are huge so the keiki/kupuna items are
just right for the small eater. You have to order at the counter and when done eating, bus your own table.


Things I have learned. If it is not tasty, don't feel compelled to eat it all. Check around to see what other people are eating before making a selection. Read the whole menu before deciding
on the tidbit you are going to eat. It's not quantity but the quality of the food that matters.

Bon Appetit!

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Chicken wing lovers gnaw

      After my knee replacement surgery, I did not want to eat.  Now this is very unusual for me.  In the first place, I could not stand up long enough to prep the food and cook it.  My husband, dear that he is, is not a cook.  So, I languished around feeling yucky until the thought of chicken wings came into my head.

     Yes, chicken wings...deepfried so that the tips are totally crunchable.  I asked my husband to bring home two chicken wings from SackNSave supermarket.  Cost $1.19 each for less than an ounce of meat but crunchy and delicious nonetheless.

    I couldn't get the thought of chicken wings out of my mind.  I again asked my husband to bring home chicken wings.  This time, he went to Verna's Drive Inn and got me a chicken wing plate lunch with two scoops of rice, macaroni salad, and six pieces of chicken wings.  Not sure of the price but must have been at least $5-$6.  The rice and mac salad were not really necessary.  The wings while nicely seasoned lacked the crunchiness of  the SackNSave version.  Made the plate lunch last three meals.

     Finally got chicken wings out of my mind when I purchased six chicken wings from the Foodland Supermarket in Kea'au.  I admit the gorged on four wings on the first day and then rationed out the last two over two days.  While it was good, it was not as crunchy as the SackNSave variety.  The good thing is that I am not yearning for chicken wings any more.  Got it out of my system by eating my fill of those delectable tidbits.

      Now I am thinking about the hearty beef noodle soup from Sky Garden Restaurant at the 'Imiloa Center.  Wonder if they are open for lunch every day.  This is what happens when one has too much time on his or her hands!!